1 10 21 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/68e7c73c0effcd873de9e96449761b23.jpg 6bdbbfdd9e3cbd8b8f7b01a16485318a Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Photo Physical Dimensions The actual physical size of the original image Digital 3861 × 2574 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Nursery Butterflies, Murphy-Craven Home, 2010 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Doneson, Arielle Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Craven, Christa Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpg, 3861 × 2574 Subject The topic of the resource Butterflies Nurseries Parental Grief Lesbian Mothers Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Photo of multicolor silk butterflies on a clear string in a tangerine colored room. "This string of butterflies hangs in our twins' bedroom to honor our first daughter Lily's presence in our lives. We had initially bought it for Lily’s nursery a few weeks before she left us. Although the meaning behind this commemoration is primarily for our immediate family and a close circle of friends, we were struck by this photograph that our friend, fine art photographer Arielle Doneson, snapped when she took photos of our twins a few months after they were born. This image became a comfort for both of us, especially in the absence of more tangible memories of Lily, like pictures or personal items, which many of us don't have following pregnancy loss. As I did research for this project I learned that butterflies are a common symbol that bereaved parents use to commemorate losses. The multiple colorful butterflies also reminded us of the rainbow pride flag, which seemed fitting since our twins were our 'rainbow babies,' a term I learned from other bereaved parents that is often used to describe children born after pregnancy loss. I sometimes joke that we actually have 'double rainbow babies,' born after we lost Lily and into a queer family." Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 10-26-2010 Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Presented with permission from Arielle Doneson. <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In Copyright.</a> Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Wooster, Ohio Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Butterflies 01 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Craven, Christa Relation A related resource <a href="http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/admin/items/show/40" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Cover for Reproductive Losses (Craven 2019)</a> https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/f488e5ce8d9ee3867deaf4174a87c4c4.jpg aa18053572e942bfc3facade53047677 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Card Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource To deny our grief is to deny our love Subject The topic of the resource Birth announcements LGBTQ people Lesbian mothers Parental Grief Sorrow Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Birth announcement with purple orchids sent to family and friends by a lesbian couple. It reads: "To deny our grief is to deny our love—for we loved her way before she was here … Thank you for sharing in our joy when we were expecting [our daughter] And for sharing in the sorrow of losing our little girl. We hurt knowing that she never got to see how many people were looking forward to meeting and loving her." The words to the song “You are my Sunshine” are printed on the reverse. “The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping I dreamed I held you in my arms But when I awoke, dear, I was mistaken And I hung my head and I cried You are my sunshine, my only sunshine You make me happy when skies are grey You'll never know, dear, how much I love you Please don't take my sunshine away” Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 02-2011 Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context To deny our grief is to deny our love_01 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright </a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource pdf Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Birth and Death Announcements https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/403438803ed8f2ab5719ed9d80a70572.jpg c4e4a4b5faa95aaf89483a169b79e0c4 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy Subject The topic of the resource Birth Announcement Poetry Memorial LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Birth announcement sent by a single lesbian mother following the birth of her eight-month-old son, Samuel (whom she asked me to name). See also her 2nd Birthday video message. In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy Conceived on May 8th, 2010 Flew away with the angels on January 10th, 2011 Was born sleeping on January 11th, 2011 Was due on February 7th, 2011 … I will forever be proud of my beloved son, Your existence inside me gave me the happiest and most wonderful 8 months of my life. I am grateful we shared so much during the short time we had together. My life will never be the same again. Thank you Samuel, I will miss you so much, ti amo pulciacchiotto, La tua mamma Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 02-02-2011 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource pdf Language A language of the resource eng ita Type The nature or genre of the resource Birth and Death Announcements Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy_01 Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant |3|0.0000000|0.0000000|osm Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/7613a4974859f4eb029ab30e5e2bc833.jpg 709c2fceab244aab8b4045b215f7a8b6 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Iris on Back Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Memorial Botanical Illustration LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Tattoo of single iris sketched in black ink that covers the full length of one mother’s back in remembrance of she and her partner’s daughter. Her partner was pregnant when she had gotten the tattoo and planned to get the same image after breastfeeding. “We got a lot of flowers and stuff [after we lost our child,] but a close friend who lives out of state sent us a dozen long stemmed blue irises the day after we lost her and that [became] her flower. So, the invitations to the memorial had an iris on them, and that’s the tattoo. Irises became very symbolic for us.” “We both would ultimately like to get the iris tattoo. [My partner] got it [on her back] right before I got pregnant, and so I plan on getting it after I finish breastfeeding [our second child].” Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2011 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright.</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Iris on Back_01 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/f11e97020f56a32d60e10db28dc03f63 611eb0327c83f2b11349ed924aa5373d Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Tattoo Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Banksy’s Girl with a Balloon Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo art Banksy Memorial Parental Grief LGBTQ people Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Forearm tattoo of Banksy’s "Girl with a Balloon" with stillborn daughter’s name as the string. The image is all in black, except the bright red heart shaped balloon. “My tattoo is an image by British graffiti artist, Banksy, entitled girl with balloon. I simply added our daughter's name to it. I originally saw it as a perfect, haunting visual representation of loss. In the very dark time shortly after our daughter's passing, I did not notice that the original art work in London included the phrase “there is always hope”in the background of the image. More recently I see an element of peaceful letting go in the image which is befitting where I eventually would like to get to in my grieving process.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2012 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Banksy’s Girl with a Balloon Tattoo_01 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Commemorative Tattoos https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/6d91de3845aa24804b01c7b476cbe7e5.jpg 4cdfddc35ff472904560f6a27fbcb57b Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Stars & Moon Foot Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Moon Memorial LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Tattoo in black ink on top of foot, a constellation of stars on an infinity symbol with a sun and moon on either side with the Latin words for “Let your light shine” in script “luceat lux vestra.” “I needed to do something to memorialize [my losses] so I have a tattoo on my foot that has an infinity symbol: three stars and the infinity, a sun and a moon for the two children I have that are living, and the Latin phrase “let your light shine.” I went by myself. My best friend helped me put it together and the artist did her part with it, but I went by myself and I-, it was one of those things—it sounds odd—but I needed something painful, something that physically hurt to close this [pain]. So [for my most recent loss] there’ll be another star at some point in the next couple months before we try again.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2010 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource lat Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Stars & Moon foot tattoo_01 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/97d2c18681ca4a22a9c68df4ae3dfc30.jpg e694366dd6cb1b04eea29c03147e454f Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Wallaby in Hebrew Tattoos Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Autobiographical memory Wallabees LGBTQ people Parental Grief Description An account of the resource Two arms intertwined with matching tattoos of the Hebrew transliteration of the letters “V-V-L-B-Y” for Wallaby, which is what they called their unborn baby. “A friend of ours, upon seeing it (because handwritten Hebrew can be so subjective), said: ‘Before reading that it was ‘Vallabee,’ I read it as: ‘oo-levei,’ or, ‘of my heart.’ That always made me happy too.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2007 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource heb Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Wallaby in Hebrew Tattoos_01 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/1ace4b8d9cfecaf9f2e0f32dc05b79ac b788c9666b0a34c200ce70f7117ff196 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/56af76707f1e01bc2c0da8619d708b56.jpg ccf15f0e3091349f767b5682cbc95c07 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Tattoo Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Birds and Langston Hughes Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Langston Hughes Birds LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Tattoo of birds in flight added to an existing tattoo with part of a quote from Langston Hughes, “Free within Ourselves” encircling forearm. “When people ask about the meaning, it’s sometimes easier just to focus on the words, as they apply to race and sexuality and the freedom to be true to oneself, loving yourself in spite of the obstacles before you. The birds are meant to connect to those words and ideas, but for me they have another meaning, too. During my pregnancy, images of birds kept coming up for me, and I felt that they represented, in a way, the next chapter of my life. I was planning on decorating the baby’s room with birds, and for a while, I was considering getting a dove tattoo after the baby was born. Of course, all of that symbolism shifted when the baby died. But these birds still represent to me new life, unconditional love for self and others, and freedom. They remind me that I don’t have to let go of all of the positive changes the baby brought to my life—changes like focusing more on self-care than I ever had before, and trusting in the path I'm walking, even if I meet unexpected turns. And the act itself, of putting this art permanently on my body, also holds meaning, as this baby’s love was so special to me, and I know it will never leave me.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2007 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright&nbsp;</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Birds and Langston Hughes_01 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Commemorative Tattoos https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/1a9bc8c8f5f58e339ccb1d7558f2dcd8 1c54606d1e7bad531cec74b8a5774cb0 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Tattoo Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource You are Loved Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Memorial LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Black script of “You are Loved” on the inside of wrist. “It was cathartic. I was very intentional in what I chose the tattoo to say. It means, it’s kinda two-fold: to this child that I never got to know, you are loved … But also ((crying)) to me.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2012 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource In copyright Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context You are Loved Tattoo_01 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Commemorative Tattoos https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/a1895247497159c8ae10947e8098db1a.jpg 13d078252311cc2b3a0621e081a20e0c Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource 8 Years Subject The topic of the resource Facebook LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Lesbian Mothers Description An account of the resource Facebook post to remember her stillborn daughter’s 8th birthday by a lesbian mother who lives in a rural US community with few other LGBTQ families in her immediate circle of friends. Text reads: It’s [November 18th] again. Eight years ago today, I held my beautiful baby girl in my arms, and tried to figure out how to say hello and goodbye all at once. This morning I sat down with [my twins], and told them the story of their oldest sister. (It’s something I did with [my second daughter] when she was an infant, too.) I know it will be years before they understand, but for now, I want them to have heard. I want them to know that this family is bigger than just what they see. I want them to know who she is, and why she’s important. I want her to know, too—she must know, wherever she is—how much she is remembered and loved… As we do each fall, we will make a birthday donation in her name. This year, the charity we have chosen is MyStuff. Children who are taken from abusive situations to shelters or foster care often must leave behind all their belongings. MyStuff provides kids in crisis with a duffel bag full of toys, books, toiletries, a stuffed animal and a blanket. Their goal is to provide a bag to each of the 300,000 children who face these situations each year. You can join us in celebrating [Ella’s] life with your own donation, at www.mystuffbags.org. It’s hard to believe eight whole years have gone by. When I close my eyes, it feels like just yesterday. Nothing—nothing—will ever erase the love I feel for this precious child. Having the chance, however brief, to be her mother, far outweighs the pain of losing her. Happy Birthday, precious child. You will live on forever in my heart. [Friend] This post makes me cry every year. This year is no exception. 37 minutes ago · Like




 [Friend] Beautiful post. Thinking of you and your family.
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 [Friend] Every year I think, how could the time pass so quickly? Still the images in my mind of [her] sweet baby face and that beautiful red hair are as vivid today as they were 8 years ago. I keep remembering everything I can remember about her, and somehow, I miss her too, though I never really knew her. Love to you and yours today, Mama. 
17 minutes ago via mobile · Like Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2014 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright.</a> Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Social Media Post Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context 8 years_01 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Social Media Posts