1 10 21 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/9fec9bc7e327f462f6b16c8f93795df6.pdf 3e79defa066715c4518e0af6229d1e6b Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource 2nd Birthday Description An account of the resource E-card send by a lesbian mother to family and friends to mark what would have been the second birthday of her son. Video begins with her child’s name (which she asked me to keep in this example) “Samuel” and the poem: Samuel, I hope you are in peace, wherever you are, I miss you terribly, mum Though my body can no longer Hold you, I hold you in my heart, A mother’s love never forgets. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Loss Research Project Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Loss Research Project Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 02-02-2013 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In Copyright</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Still image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context 2nd Birthday_01 Subject The topic of the resource Birthday Card LGBTQ people Autobiographical memory Sorrow https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/a1895247497159c8ae10947e8098db1a.jpg 13d078252311cc2b3a0621e081a20e0c Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource 8 Years Subject The topic of the resource Facebook LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Lesbian Mothers Description An account of the resource Facebook post to remember her stillborn daughter’s 8th birthday by a lesbian mother who lives in a rural US community with few other LGBTQ families in her immediate circle of friends. Text reads: It’s [November 18th] again. Eight years ago today, I held my beautiful baby girl in my arms, and tried to figure out how to say hello and goodbye all at once. This morning I sat down with [my twins], and told them the story of their oldest sister. (It’s something I did with [my second daughter] when she was an infant, too.) I know it will be years before they understand, but for now, I want them to have heard. I want them to know that this family is bigger than just what they see. I want them to know who she is, and why she’s important. I want her to know, too—she must know, wherever she is—how much she is remembered and loved… As we do each fall, we will make a birthday donation in her name. This year, the charity we have chosen is MyStuff. Children who are taken from abusive situations to shelters or foster care often must leave behind all their belongings. MyStuff provides kids in crisis with a duffel bag full of toys, books, toiletries, a stuffed animal and a blanket. Their goal is to provide a bag to each of the 300,000 children who face these situations each year. You can join us in celebrating [Ella’s] life with your own donation, at www.mystuffbags.org. It’s hard to believe eight whole years have gone by. When I close my eyes, it feels like just yesterday. Nothing—nothing—will ever erase the love I feel for this precious child. Having the chance, however brief, to be her mother, far outweighs the pain of losing her. Happy Birthday, precious child. You will live on forever in my heart. [Friend] This post makes me cry every year. This year is no exception. 37 minutes ago · Like




 [Friend] Beautiful post. Thinking of you and your family.
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 [Friend] Every year I think, how could the time pass so quickly? Still the images in my mind of [her] sweet baby face and that beautiful red hair are as vivid today as they were 8 years ago. I keep remembering everything I can remember about her, and somehow, I miss her too, though I never really knew her. Love to you and yours today, Mama. 
17 minutes ago via mobile · Like Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2014 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright.</a> Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Social Media Post Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context 8 years_01 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Social Media Posts https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/f11e97020f56a32d60e10db28dc03f63 611eb0327c83f2b11349ed924aa5373d Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Tattoo Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Banksy’s Girl with a Balloon Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo art Banksy Memorial Parental Grief LGBTQ people Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Forearm tattoo of Banksy’s "Girl with a Balloon" with stillborn daughter’s name as the string. The image is all in black, except the bright red heart shaped balloon. “My tattoo is an image by British graffiti artist, Banksy, entitled girl with balloon. I simply added our daughter's name to it. I originally saw it as a perfect, haunting visual representation of loss. In the very dark time shortly after our daughter's passing, I did not notice that the original art work in London included the phrase “there is always hope”in the background of the image. More recently I see an element of peaceful letting go in the image which is befitting where I eventually would like to get to in my grieving process.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2012 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Banksy’s Girl with a Balloon Tattoo_01 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Commemorative Tattoos https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/1ace4b8d9cfecaf9f2e0f32dc05b79ac b788c9666b0a34c200ce70f7117ff196 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/56af76707f1e01bc2c0da8619d708b56.jpg ccf15f0e3091349f767b5682cbc95c07 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Tattoo Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Birds and Langston Hughes Tattoo Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Langston Hughes Birds LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Tattoo of birds in flight added to an existing tattoo with part of a quote from Langston Hughes, “Free within Ourselves” encircling forearm. “When people ask about the meaning, it’s sometimes easier just to focus on the words, as they apply to race and sexuality and the freedom to be true to oneself, loving yourself in spite of the obstacles before you. The birds are meant to connect to those words and ideas, but for me they have another meaning, too. During my pregnancy, images of birds kept coming up for me, and I felt that they represented, in a way, the next chapter of my life. I was planning on decorating the baby’s room with birds, and for a while, I was considering getting a dove tattoo after the baby was born. Of course, all of that symbolism shifted when the baby died. But these birds still represent to me new life, unconditional love for self and others, and freedom. They remind me that I don’t have to let go of all of the positive changes the baby brought to my life—changes like focusing more on self-care than I ever had before, and trusting in the path I'm walking, even if I meet unexpected turns. And the act itself, of putting this art permanently on my body, also holds meaning, as this baby’s love was so special to me, and I know it will never leave me.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2007 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright&nbsp;</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Birds and Langston Hughes_01 Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Commemorative Tattoos https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/029638d17bff18f31c4e3b2a180a888a.jpg 35e095f60334753e1cb614c689360097 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/939c643c81ddaf31f8c8356ace3d2a17.jpg 1f887c4606e65c84a3dc1859fe16791d Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Butterfly Art Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Lane-Davies, Hannah Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Lane-Davies, Hannah Subject The topic of the resource butterflies line drawing Description An account of the resource Hand drawn butterflies. Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource April 29, 2019 Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In Copyright.</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Black ink on white paper. Type The nature or genre of the resource Line drawing Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Lane-Davies Butterfly Drawings 01 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/0692b1deabbec8cf98d167dcc1cf13c7.jpg 18b4536133f75530ad5cd60fdd7a95c8 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/ac1e36945dc58fbf946ade168b59659d.jpg 0dd614c37168ec375ee18dd2546fbf78 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Communal Memorial Hat Description An account of the resource Photos of both sides of a partially finished green knit hat with multicolored string and remembrances attached, created by an interfaith minister and the couple's close friends and family. “[After her birthmother reclaimed her,] we asked our friend, who is also an interfaith minister, if she would help us do a ritual to say goodbye to her. So, we invited the people who had met her to the house. We did it in here ((gesturing around the room)) …. I had looked all over the place for things like-, what do you do when you’ve lost [a child you planned to adopt]? There are no ceremonies, there was nothing out there that I could find to figure out how to mark this. And we felt like we needed to do something but didn’t want it to be huge because our pain was so intense. But we felt like we needed to do something to send her on her way, not only to say goodbye to her for us but also to kind of keep her getting the energy she got when she was here, to handle [the situation] she was going to be in. And we couldn’t find anything. So I [asked our friend to] create something for us. We did it when [our older son] was in school. He was in preschool, it was a Friday morning like this. We invited everyone over, we had two hours because then we had to pick him up from preschool. We did this amazing ceremony. I think I have a copy of it because I don’t remember it all. What I remember was she had us take thread and weave it…. She had started to knit this ((holding out the hat)). This was gonna be a hat for [our daughter that our friend] had started to make. She brought this and she had us each take a string and put it in and say what we wanted to say. [Initially, our friend offered to finish the hat] for the next baby that we got. But we didn’t want to do that. We just wanted it to be for her. So, each person went around and talked about her and what she had meant to them. And you know, it was really amazing and moving that she had touched so many people’s lives already. That ceremony helped me, probably for the first time in my life, fully honor the magnitude of an experience like that. It was the biggest loss I’ve ever had and the hardest experience of my life. And I think it was the one time when we actually did justice to it with people there to witness us and be with us…. I think it was really healing for everybody that was there. We really just wailed mostly. Just wailed. I don’t think I’ve ever wailed before that…. And then we had to go get [our son at preschool] and do life. I still think about her everyday ((crying and holding the hat tenderly)) I wonder what her life is like now, who she is and what she’s like… Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2004 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Communal Memorial Hat_01 Subject The topic of the resource Autobiographical memory Knitting Memorials LGBTQ people Parental Grief Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Anonymous Interfaith Minister Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Physical Memorials https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/5ba61b651125acd132d512e7ca1990d8.jpg 7ce25fb1d76a571eea41a8edf79545ca Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Cover for Reproductive Losses (Craven 2019) Subject The topic of the resource Butterflies Parental Grief Lesbian Mothers Feminist Anthropology Ethnography Book Book cover art Description An account of the resource Cover of Reproductive Losses: Challenges to LGBTQ Family-Making Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Routledge Doneson, Arielle Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived <a href="http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/admin/items/edit/1" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Nursery Butterflies, Murphy-Craven Home, 2010</a> Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Craven, Christa Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 2019 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Craven, Christa Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Presented with permission from Arielle Doneson. <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In Copyright.</a> Relation A related resource <a href="http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/admin/items/edit/1" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Nursery Butterflies, Murphy-Craven Home, 2010</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource 283 × 425 Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Book Cover 01 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/8646ad7f3c9821a7cf8bc6e0c549fdde.jpg 74c5411708e2f55753eb96668162ce76 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Craven Headshot Subject The topic of the resource Christa Craven Description An account of the resource Headshot of Christa Craven Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Matt Dilyard Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 2015 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Christa Craven Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource In Copyright Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpg 4016 × 6016 Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context craven_headshot_2015 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/174b4df72d29c183470d8bf7dcd0bde6.jpeg 1cf255c350ca12fbd712f0a8bab0b20b Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. 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Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Little free library Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Free Library in Memorial Garden Description An account of the resource Photos of a Free Library with a sign that reads “This library is in honor of our boys—Derek who loves to read and Oren who would have” (names included with permission) and memorial garden filled with flowers. See also Quilt Patch. “We [put up the library] in honor of Oren and filled it with children’s books for the neighborhood kids [and planted] a beautiful garden behind it.” Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2013 Language A language of the resource eng Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright</a> Subject The topic of the resource Little Free Library Autobiographical memory Garden LGBTQ people Parental Grief Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Free Library in Memorial Garden_01 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participants in Reproductive Losses Research Project Relation A related resource http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/items/show/18 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Physical Memorials