1 10 21 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/0692b1deabbec8cf98d167dcc1cf13c7.jpg 18b4536133f75530ad5cd60fdd7a95c8 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/ac1e36945dc58fbf946ade168b59659d.jpg 0dd614c37168ec375ee18dd2546fbf78 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Communal Memorial Hat Description An account of the resource Photos of both sides of a partially finished green knit hat with multicolored string and remembrances attached, created by an interfaith minister and the couple's close friends and family. “[After her birthmother reclaimed her,] we asked our friend, who is also an interfaith minister, if she would help us do a ritual to say goodbye to her. So, we invited the people who had met her to the house. We did it in here ((gesturing around the room)) …. I had looked all over the place for things like-, what do you do when you’ve lost [a child you planned to adopt]? There are no ceremonies, there was nothing out there that I could find to figure out how to mark this. And we felt like we needed to do something but didn’t want it to be huge because our pain was so intense. But we felt like we needed to do something to send her on her way, not only to say goodbye to her for us but also to kind of keep her getting the energy she got when she was here, to handle [the situation] she was going to be in. And we couldn’t find anything. So I [asked our friend to] create something for us. We did it when [our older son] was in school. He was in preschool, it was a Friday morning like this. We invited everyone over, we had two hours because then we had to pick him up from preschool. We did this amazing ceremony. I think I have a copy of it because I don’t remember it all. What I remember was she had us take thread and weave it…. She had started to knit this ((holding out the hat)). This was gonna be a hat for [our daughter that our friend] had started to make. She brought this and she had us each take a string and put it in and say what we wanted to say. [Initially, our friend offered to finish the hat] for the next baby that we got. But we didn’t want to do that. We just wanted it to be for her. So, each person went around and talked about her and what she had meant to them. And you know, it was really amazing and moving that she had touched so many people’s lives already. That ceremony helped me, probably for the first time in my life, fully honor the magnitude of an experience like that. It was the biggest loss I’ve ever had and the hardest experience of my life. And I think it was the one time when we actually did justice to it with people there to witness us and be with us…. I think it was really healing for everybody that was there. We really just wailed mostly. Just wailed. I don’t think I’ve ever wailed before that…. And then we had to go get [our son at preschool] and do life. I still think about her everyday ((crying and holding the hat tenderly)) I wonder what her life is like now, who she is and what she’s like… Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2004 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Communal Memorial Hat_01 Subject The topic of the resource Autobiographical memory Knitting Memorials LGBTQ people Parental Grief Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Anonymous Interfaith Minister Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Physical Memorials https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/68e7c73c0effcd873de9e96449761b23.jpg 6bdbbfdd9e3cbd8b8f7b01a16485318a Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Photo Physical Dimensions The actual physical size of the original image Digital 3861 × 2574 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Nursery Butterflies, Murphy-Craven Home, 2010 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Doneson, Arielle Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Craven, Christa Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpg, 3861 × 2574 Subject The topic of the resource Butterflies Nurseries Parental Grief Lesbian Mothers Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Photo of multicolor silk butterflies on a clear string in a tangerine colored room. "This string of butterflies hangs in our twins' bedroom to honor our first daughter Lily's presence in our lives. We had initially bought it for Lily’s nursery a few weeks before she left us. Although the meaning behind this commemoration is primarily for our immediate family and a close circle of friends, we were struck by this photograph that our friend, fine art photographer Arielle Doneson, snapped when she took photos of our twins a few months after they were born. This image became a comfort for both of us, especially in the absence of more tangible memories of Lily, like pictures or personal items, which many of us don't have following pregnancy loss. As I did research for this project I learned that butterflies are a common symbol that bereaved parents use to commemorate losses. The multiple colorful butterflies also reminded us of the rainbow pride flag, which seemed fitting since our twins were our 'rainbow babies,' a term I learned from other bereaved parents that is often used to describe children born after pregnancy loss. I sometimes joke that we actually have 'double rainbow babies,' born after we lost Lily and into a queer family." Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 10-26-2010 Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Presented with permission from Arielle Doneson. <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In Copyright.</a> Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant Wooster, Ohio Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Butterflies 01 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Craven, Christa Relation A related resource <a href="http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/admin/items/show/40" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Cover for Reproductive Losses (Craven 2019)</a> https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/9efe26d0fcabac2661e7a375b5797e0f.jpeg 498a714f1d33256862d62c5a42524f6f Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Description An account of the resource Sketch and photograph of upper arm tattoo, the Buddhist figure Jizo in a red robe with children in the folds, releasing a yellow butterfly from his hand. "In 2010, 6 years after my only child, Nia, was stillborn, I designed this tattoo based on the myth/story of the Japanese bodhisatva, Jizo. The story is that he is the guardian of children who die before their parents. There are statues of him all over Japan. It’s an amazing story- I encourage you to look it up- it’s more than I can include here. The yellow butterfly represents my daughter- as Jizo sets her free." Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource May 27, 2004 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Jodi Murphy Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Nia’s Mommy, Jodi Murphy Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Bodhisatva Memorial Parental Grief LGBTQ people Autobiographical memory Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of Jodi Murphy Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource In copyright, https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpg Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Jizo tattoo_01 Title A name given to the resource Jizo & Butterfly Tattoo https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/029638d17bff18f31c4e3b2a180a888a.jpg 35e095f60334753e1cb614c689360097 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/939c643c81ddaf31f8c8356ace3d2a17.jpg 1f887c4606e65c84a3dc1859fe16791d Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Butterfly Art Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Lane-Davies, Hannah Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Lane-Davies, Hannah Subject The topic of the resource butterflies line drawing Description An account of the resource Hand drawn butterflies. Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource April 29, 2019 Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In Copyright.</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource Black ink on white paper. Type The nature or genre of the resource Line drawing Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Lane-Davies Butterfly Drawings 01 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/8646ad7f3c9821a7cf8bc6e0c549fdde.jpg 74c5411708e2f55753eb96668162ce76 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Craven Headshot Subject The topic of the resource Christa Craven Description An account of the resource Headshot of Christa Craven Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Matt Dilyard Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 2015 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Christa Craven Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource In Copyright Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpg 4016 × 6016 Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context craven_headshot_2015 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/9fec9bc7e327f462f6b16c8f93795df6.pdf 3e79defa066715c4518e0af6229d1e6b Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource 2nd Birthday Description An account of the resource E-card send by a lesbian mother to family and friends to mark what would have been the second birthday of her son. Video begins with her child’s name (which she asked me to keep in this example) “Samuel” and the poem: Samuel, I hope you are in peace, wherever you are, I miss you terribly, mum Though my body can no longer Hold you, I hold you in my heart, A mother’s love never forgets. Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Loss Research Project Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Loss Research Project Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 02-02-2013 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In Copyright</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource eng Type The nature or genre of the resource Still image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context 2nd Birthday_01 Subject The topic of the resource Birthday Card LGBTQ people Autobiographical memory Sorrow https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/00e7f0ada299d5c8ef6637db6015c243.JPG 8c95fdf96765d42512ad3a0bd07d6189 https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/38cc88c0198979fd145d27e6cc29b0ab.JPG 8c95fdf96765d42512ad3a0bd07d6189 Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Quilt Patch for Family Tree Quilt Subject The topic of the resource Quilts Butterflies LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Photo of a quilt patch with a blue and purple butterfly and the text “Oren Jasper 4-19-12” (name included with permission), created by a non-gestational mother's family members .  See also the couple's Free Library, created in honor of their two sons. “[Because I carried our child,] I think it often gets overlooked that he was [my partner’s] son too and that makes me really sad. But one of her family members really got it. Her grandmother has an enormous quilt on her wall, and it has the family tree on it. They put Oren on the family tree as [my partner’s] son. They got that he was her son too.” Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2012 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Quilt Patch for Family Tree Quilt_01 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Project Relation A related resource http://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/items/show/16 Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright.</a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Physical Memorials https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/f488e5ce8d9ee3867deaf4174a87c4c4.jpg aa18053572e942bfc3facade53047677 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Original Format The type of object, such as painting, sculpture, paper, photo, and additional data Card Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource To deny our grief is to deny our love Subject The topic of the resource Birth announcements LGBTQ people Lesbian mothers Parental Grief Sorrow Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Birth announcement with purple orchids sent to family and friends by a lesbian couple. It reads: "To deny our grief is to deny our love—for we loved her way before she was here … Thank you for sharing in our joy when we were expecting [our daughter] And for sharing in the sorrow of losing our little girl. We hurt knowing that she never got to see how many people were looking forward to meeting and loving her." The words to the song “You are my Sunshine” are printed on the reverse. “The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping I dreamed I held you in my arms But when I awoke, dear, I was mistaken And I hung my head and I cried You are my sunshine, my only sunshine You make me happy when skies are grey You'll never know, dear, how much I love you Please don't take my sunshine away” Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 02-2011 Language A language of the resource eng Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context To deny our grief is to deny our love_01 Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lang, Ella Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="https://rightsstatements.org/page/InC/1.0/?language=en">In copyright </a> Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource pdf Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant Birth and Death Announcements https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/403438803ed8f2ab5719ed9d80a70572.jpg c4e4a4b5faa95aaf89483a169b79e0c4 Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy Subject The topic of the resource Birth Announcement Poetry Memorial LGBTQ people Parental Grief Autobiographical memory Description An account of the resource Birth announcement sent by a single lesbian mother following the birth of her eight-month-old son, Samuel (whom she asked me to name). See also her 2nd Birthday video message. In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy Conceived on May 8th, 2010 Flew away with the angels on January 10th, 2011 Was born sleeping on January 11th, 2011 Was due on February 7th, 2011 … I will forever be proud of my beloved son, Your existence inside me gave me the happiest and most wonderful 8 months of my life. I am grateful we shared so much during the short time we had together. My life will never be the same again. Thank you Samuel, I will miss you so much, ti amo pulciacchiotto, La tua mamma Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 02-02-2011 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource pdf Language A language of the resource eng ita Type The nature or genre of the resource Birth and Death Announcements Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context In loving memory of my beautiful and perfect baby boy_01 Coverage The spatial or temporal topic of the resource, the spatial applicability of the resource, or the jurisdiction under which the resource is relevant |3|0.0000000|0.0000000|osm Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant https://www.lgbtqreproductiveloss.org/files/original/97d2c18681ca4a22a9c68df4ae3dfc30.jpg e694366dd6cb1b04eea29c03147e454f Still Image A static visual representation. Examples include paintings, drawings, graphic designs, plans and maps. Recommended best practice is to assign the type Text to images of textual materials. Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Wallaby in Hebrew Tattoos Subject The topic of the resource Tattoo Art Autobiographical memory Wallabees LGBTQ people Parental Grief Description An account of the resource Two arms intertwined with matching tattoos of the Hebrew transliteration of the letters “V-V-L-B-Y” for Wallaby, which is what they called their unborn baby. “A friend of ours, upon seeing it (because handwritten Hebrew can be so subjective), said: ‘Before reading that it was ‘Vallabee,’ I read it as: ‘oo-levei,’ or, ‘of my heart.’ That always made me happy too.” Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available unpublished Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource Circa 2007 Contributor An entity responsible for making contributions to the resource Participant in LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Research Project Craven, Christa Lane-Davies, Hannah Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource <a href="http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/InC/1.0/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">In copyright</a>. Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource jpeg Language A language of the resource heb Type The nature or genre of the resource Still Image Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context Wallaby in Hebrew Tattoos_01 Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived Personal Collection of LGBTQ Reproductive Losses Study Participant